As a charismatic Christian, we often discussed the distinction between chronos and kairos time. Chronos time refers to the linear passage of time, but Kairos moments were those “God moments” where everything changed due to a move of God. Kairos moments are those moments where synchronicity and divine intervention merge and life changes on a dime.

So, color me surprised when last week, I read my New York Times newsletter, and the writer was writing about taking the time to observe Kairos Moments.

What windows of luck and chance and coincidence emerge when we’re a little quieter, a little more observant? I’ll be observing the sun setting an hour earlier tomorrow, wondering about kairos, those moments of opportunity in the offing that the clock and the calendar can’t touch.

One of the best ways to miss Kairos moments is to be distracted by screens, the bad news of the day, or mentally checking out.  I remain deeply spiritual, and I believe in the concept of Kairos moments. One of my biggest gripes about my current life is the lack of opportunity. Every day feels repetitive. It is time for me to slow down so that I can observe the environment and take advantage of opportunities that I had not noticed before.

This is why I am making significant changes in the first quarter of the year

I do not want to spend another year mourning missed opportunities and connections because I am stuck in this same repetitive cycle.  I must capitalize on opportunities, even the ones that may seem minimal, because those are the ones that often lead to greater opportunities. Recently, I read a story about a bartender who ended up working at Google because she had served Google employees daily and provided solutions to their problems. I reached out to a leader at an old company where I had worked, and I loved how she shared that she took a job that paid less than she had ever made, and within eighteen months, she was in a leadership position. I wasn’t surprised because she has the sauce, and the sauce is what makes the difference.

Over the past few months, I have come to realize how much I am missing out by not having peers and mentors. Those missing connections are really holding me back. Right now, my work is socially and professionally isolating. I want to be able to build relationships with coworkers. Yes, for professional connections, but also we meet friends at work. I don’t have that now, and I am ready for it.

The job situation feels hopeless due to the ongoing government issues and the fact that we are in the midst of an economic recession, although nobody is openly acknowledging it. I was encouraged this week to remember that, “When it’s hard, when it’s impossible, when there’s absolutely no solution, you still hang on because you never know when help may come or from who”.

That is the beauty of Kairos moments and synchronicity, that they often come out of the blue and are entirely random. I know that I have to be focused, open, available, and ready to receive. I also have the sense that this is going to require me to set aside a lot of my hang-ups and assumptions.

One Year From Now…THE BIG STICK

This week, one of the YouTube girls encouraged us to make a time capsule video to watch in a year. I loved this idea, and I was all in. Since I am still churchy, I will say that I am prophesying my future.

One year from now…

There’s a quote often attributed to Vladimir Lenin that says there are decades when nothing happens and weeks when decades happen.

This has been a year when a decade happened for me, from wandering in the wilderness for the last ten years to moving forward into destiny. It required leaving what I knew behind: Losing the repressive religious conditioning, moving on from training.

2025 was a turning point. I knew I didn’t want another year of the same old, same old. I didn’t want another year of missed opportunities, missed connections, and lack of movement.

Unbelievable things have happened. I went from bored, Blah, autopilot, and disconnected to Booked, Busy, Thinking, and Connected. I jumped on Opportunities that opened the door to more opportunities. I have made crazy connections that changed my life.

I wasn’t late. It was just like at that George Michael show, where I was in the wrong line, but I course-corrected and got to the correct place, making it to the show right on time. The same thing happened to me in my life, and I didn’t miss a thing. I was right on time because I would not have been ready to receive all that is happening now.

Remember that crazy dream on August 8? The random name and all that. Ohhhh, I know why now. It was a message that I was never destined to choose the short stick. I was always supposed to choose the big stick, and I did one better: I chose the huge stick.

What would I tell myself now in 2025 that would get me to the place that I am in 2026?

Trust God.

Take the Risk

Do it Afraid.

STEP ALL THE WAY IN.

LET GO

RECEIVE

ENJOY IT BECAUSE THIS IS REAL

Feel my Energy!

One of my goals during this Fall Push was to feel more energized in my body. I kept saying I was bored, and I felt so blah. I think this is how depression shows up for me. Yes, my environment needs to change, and I would like to be stimulated again, but I do feel better.  It could be the St. John’s Wort, but I am back to getting in the groove of things. I can wake up at 4:45 AM again to work out or do my Power Hour. I love to get up and get it going again with the music and the quietness.

“Motivation often increases after you begin. The lesson is not to wish you had more motivation, but to make starting as easy as possible.”

I don’t believe in waiting until you feel motivated to get going. I think you have to get going, and then the motivation builds as you make progress.

Speaking of motivation, thank you, Kelly Rowland, for that song because it’s about to be on repeat for 2026! This may be TMI, but after ten years, I have confirmed that my hormones have not entirely died. I knew that because I googled people from the past, and I’m like, “Wow, I have really been down bad these last ten years.” I also know my hormones still work because sometimes when I take a Peloton class from Adrian and he gets naughty, I snicker, but it’s been a minute since I saw someone who made me say, “Aww, wait a minute.”

I have been listening to this bro fitness podcast for years because the hosts crack me up. I also like listening in on the male psyche. Anyway, they interviewed this guy, I took one look at him and said, “Ayyyyy!!  It feels great to get excited again, and thank goodness for YouTube!

Over the summer, I said that if you asked me about my vision for the future, I had nothing for you except to get a real job and travel. Now I am feeling my vigor returning, and I still want to get a real job and travel, but there are other things for me, like finding a creative outlet and getting back to socializing.

The Vision is for the future, but the work is in the present.